I can't write a lot about that topic, since I have actually no experience. I guess I'm one of the late ones. Actually.. Sex isn't a topic we talk about at school. We talk about other stuff. Of course, a lot of the other girls are dating and have boy-friends. But I think we never talked about sex, since it's a private thing.

Yeah, I'm a virgin with 19, which some ppl consider as rlly embarassing. Though I can't talk about the procedure itself, I think you should have sex when you're ready for it. I'm okay with being a virgin now. I don't want sex with someone I don't know or care about. Because my body is most precious to me.. and maybe some ppl would think the guy with me is a pedophile because I sometimes look like 14... :/

I remember a story when a girl and a boy at a classmate's birthdayparty had sex just to.. yeah.. show it.. o_ò' Yeah.. at was back in.. I think we were 15 at that time... And having sex with someone you don't know is still seen as a bitch's behaviour. I do not completly agree with it, but that's the major opinion among the girls at school. ^^''

Sounds more like that girl was just a slut.

Jotenks! Don't judge people like that! Only I can judge people like that!

In all seriousness though, just because a girl wants sex does not make her a bitch or a slut. It makes her human, like the rest of us.

I think I am in love...not sex love of course...more love of your comment, but not sure can have sex with comment, well not conventionally anyway, but love is varied emotion, so love of some extramarital value, nevertheless. :D

[ in short I agree ]

ps sorry sally, only just seen your comments

I would think it's really a matter of personality. Are you open about it, or are you not so open about it?

The only problems people usually have come when they're at the logical extremes (prostitutes and priests).

Personally, on here I am open about my closed sexuality. I am a straight male 20 year old virgin. As a societal introvert, I personally want a relationship first. I just can't see myself screwing someone that I don't really like. I find it uncomfortable to be that intimate with someone I don't know that well, and I've been hurt by girls before. I know how everything works, so now it's just about finding someone I feel comfortable with without being inebriated enough to do something that I would consider a mistake while sober.

Ladies and gentlemen of this supposed jury, it does not make sense! If Chewbacca lives on Endor, you must acquit! The defense rests.

But Chewie didn't live on Endor. The Ewoks lived on Endor.

See? It does NOT MAKE SENSE. So when you're in there conjugatin' the emancipation proclamation, ask yourself: Does it make sense? No. It does NOT MAKE SENSE.

:objection:

Wookies live on Kashyyyk!

See? It does NOT MAKE SENSE. So when you're in there conjugatin' the emancipation proclamation, ask yourself: Does it make sense? No. It does NOT MAKE SENSE.

I think it might be best for a person to at least wait until they are an adult. (I personally would wait until after marriage, but that's just me.) There are too many risks, like diseases, pregnancy, social stigma, etc.

But if someone does want to have sex before marriage, they should use several kinds of birth control to make sure they don't get sick or pregnant. I would say abstinence is the best one, but I'm sure we've all seen how well abstinence-only education works.

There should be some sort of strategy to the whole process, I think.

*throws a coin*
sorry, better luck next year

There's also the issue of whether or not they wish to be monogamous.

Monogamy sounds like it'd be easier to deal with than polygamy.

Incoming wall of text.

Sex is part of society. Sex feels good. Sex if not taken care of begins to build stress in the body and can be harfull if left untaken care of. simple point being humans need to have sex. When should we have sex? Well that's to be debated in all sorts of gray areas. I mean by god should we set the limit to when u get a boner. You would have kid's gone wild all over the place.
Should it be when your mature enough to handle it? Who's to say your ever to become mature enough to handle the responsibilities of sex. What's to say what mature is? There is nothing "mature" about the act of having sex. It's usually not pretty unless it's staged (as in a porno). Sex is an animalistic nature. It's main purpose is to breed. Why it feels amazing is beyond me. That's just asking for trouble. Why would u make breeding a double edged sword? I mean if it hurt both parties to have sex but must be done to have a kid i'm quite sure you'd see less people jumping into each others beds. but the fact of the matter is for some reason it's one of the greatest feelings in the world.
Point being. Anyone could give any number of reasons why not to have sex at this age and that age and vice versa. I don't think anyone is really qualified to say when someone is ready to have sex or not tbh. Just think about it. Doesn't take much thought really. Either your religious or your not. either you think sex is sacred or you don't. Either you enjoy having sex not really caring who the partner is as long as they look good or you don't. Just know what can come of unsafe sex. And from there it's YOUR choice.

This is where the "talk" came from. Parents knowing there's not much they can do for their children other than prepare them for what is to come. Let them know that their body is changing and a new need will be surfaced. A need that can be suppressed or unleashed. A need that if taken care of with the utmost care rewards a young person or will be the lead to a hard future.

Now as for all you "morale" people out there. I just gotta say this right now. No one is above sex (unless of course one of your functions is not working properly). It's human nature have sex. Like seriously when you see a very attractive female/male in front of you, I highly doubt you think to yourself "well *insert name here* that there woman is quite the delicacy. I'd quite enjoy taking her out to dinner and perhaps rubbing her feet all night long. And then possibly going for a walk along the sandy beaches. Then possibly eloping somewhere overseas" NO you say to yourself "man i'd love to get into their pants or see them with their shirt off". That's the normal human thought's going off in the head of a normal human being who comes across a attracting person.

If your religious then I understand the whole waiting thing. It's a biblical command and as such you adhere to it. But even in the bible in the old testament. they were being married at the age's of 14 and such. That's just about the age where puberty kicks in. And I highly doubt they simply married and never knew one another.

Maturity is more of a social buzzword than a psychological or biological one. Because maturity is defined in a social way, any psychological state a person would have to be in would therefore be defined socially. There is a biological fact that brains aren't fully developed until a certain point, and therefore maturity is slightly biological, but again, maturity is defined socially, not biologically or psychologically. Maturity depends on where and when you are, and that's a fact.

Just avoid rape if you're in a society that frowns on rape or have philosophical beliefs that...

You know what? Just don't rape someone, ever.

Yep, social, social. The hard future is social. After all, a single male cat could impregnate hundreds of cats and be strong and healthy.

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I knew it. I'm weird. T_T

It's a social thing. Our society defines marriage at 14 as being immoral because we're unprepared because our childhood is being extended. Probably for political reasons.

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Of course sexual desires are natural, but when you sleep with people for attention, to be popular, or with people you don't even know, I frown upon such behavior, and yes...that's a bit slutty in my opinion....also I believe kids nowadays who are worried about how they can make their ta tas look bigger, and how to sleep with guys/girls really need to be focusing more on schoolwork and kid stuff!!!

I'm straight and single. I'm single due to being someone with high standards, maybe too high. Though I know loads of gays and bi's. Though I think some of the 'bi' girls pose to be bi for attention, no offence but I just do feel they pretend of force themselves to be that way to impress or not to impress people.
My feelings?
I'm not pro-gay nor anti-gay. I'm neutral, there is nothing wrong with being gay but I don't think its great to be gay or whatever.

I've recently gained new information regarding the posted question that doesn't really change my views too much. Just to reiterate my current view "As long as it's between two or more consenting adults and they're all ok with it, then they can do whatever makes them happy." On that note, I'll be here doing just that.

Bi just seems kinda greedy; everyone else has to pick one side of the buffet table.

What if its a round table?

Don't be ridiculous.
With a round buffet-table everyone would be bumping and stretching and reaching and bending and oh god oh god oh god…

So... just deny your attraction to one of the sexes? Great, perfect plan, I must say.

You have clearly never been to China.

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I don't believe that most teenagers are capable of mature emotions, and are typically allowing their hormones to rule them. [QUOTE]


Oh geez, how right you are! (god teenagers can be so fricking imature :smiley4:)

It's totally not a simple concrete answer. I had sex for the first time when I was far too young, which has resulted in me having a completely objective view of sex as an action if you will. Had lots of sex since then, but recently fell in love for the first time, and losing that was a lot worse. Point being, I was emotionally stable for sex from the get go if you will, but as soon as emotional attachment got involved it became a completely different story. People need to stop focusing on getting people ready for STI's and Pregnancy and start preparing people for heart break and rage control.

That's not really a bad idea, only it's not logistically an ideal one. Many young people today (whom I will focus on since that was the intended subject of this thread) make the mistake of feeling that there isn't anyone that they can go to for issues like that. They tend to look to themselves for an answer or just brush these issues under the rug. 'And why shouldn't I" they say? Going to their friends for help, which would ideally be an excellent solution to use later in life, might not work because more often than not, their friends are having their own issues and making the same choices. They may choose to go to their parents or siblings, the next closest people who would understand what they're going through, but barring the possibility of a rough relationship with them, there's the problem that this stage of life is were they express independence from their previous family life in various steps, causing them to shy away from asking for help. That, and traditionally it's not quite so comforting having relatives or friends so involved in one's love life, particularly if it's a sexually active love life. And for the lesser extreme in this area, there's the argument for having schools and colleges deal with this, which would evokes a response both from the community and from the students themselves. The community would be upset about classes further diminishing the traditional role of the parents, while the students wouldn't listen anyway, just like with the lectures on STIs, pregnancies, alcohol, drugs, etc.