The Opposite Sex (Boy's\Girl's)

[redpheonix]

ok ok ok, what is * in you fine ppl of the bar - thread * think is the best age to be serious in a relationship, so that it lasts, or do relationships last ??

[maisetofan]

depends on how well you get along, i know it sounds clich? but being best friends with someone you love is so important, you know the good and the bad, the nice and the not so nice and the pretty and the ugly, you know it all and u still love em to bits

[Fat1Fared]

Originally Posted by redpheonix

ok ok ok, what is * in you fine ppl of the bar - thread * think is the best age to be serious in a relationship, so that it lasts, or do relationships last ??

You know that is a really interesting question, and I actually think we need to look at what mean by serious, if mean serious as in, for rest of lives or serious as in a real relationship, which goes beyond just fun,

I think that for the real relationship one but still no may break up, it will be very individaul but, can be any age, as long as they can understand what love is, and the responsablitily/bad points to it as well, so I would say most will start learning this around 16, and begin to really understand in early 20's learn

For life, well again it is peronal, but personally I think that it depends first and formost on the responsability of the couple involved, if they are not responseable enough to handle it or able to real comitt/realise their partner will change, then shouldn't do, but if are then it is there choice, though there is to me, a cut off-point here as like I said, poeple do change if binding for life, (though no releationship is really like that, no what mean) it is long time and so don't rush it, let it tavell to you and after time, will know if this partner is as they say THE ONE, personally I wouldn't want to ever settle down, till at lest 30, as there is still so much I want to do myself in life and once in relationship, it is no longer about I, but WE, which is what lot of couples forget


(but I also think that need to remember, the younger you are the more you will change,)

I personally think once get to a point, where you can both just sit in a room in silience for an hour, doing nothing and yet because your with other person be happy, your there

[maisetofan]

I personally think once get to a point, where you can both just sit in a room in silience for an hour, doing nothing and yet because your with other person be happy, your there

VERY true :D

[Fat1Fared]

what can say, for someone who is a cynic about love, I am a romantic at heart lol

PS British, didn't see last post, if had, would have agreed with what Overmind put anyway, if she says doesn't want you, but then still says interested, move on, and not to be clichle, is others out there man, who would be better for you,

[maisetofan]

yes i am a cynic but thats only cuz the experiences have taught me to be

[redpheonix]

i guess i just want to know that the person i am with is not going to leave me for someone who will give him the things i will not .....ya know
i know i am not ready to be tied down with marriage yet...
but to have a companion would be nice to do all the things i want to do, like travel ect

[Fat1Fared]

Red, I hope what I put above helped, and though i know I am not the end answer here, but if he tries to make you rush into it, when your not ready, it will only end badly, as you will want to do other things and so may even get angry at him for tieing you down, be in your relationship and happy, but explain your not yet ready for that big step, if he truly likes you, he will understand

[Turtlicious]

love always end badly even the best relationships will eventually end in tears the best thing to do is to realize that all most people want is to have fun

forget that and you become human shrifting fun for "socially acceptable" activities

i am a realist as soon as you guys have a fight and work through it the opposite will know that it was ok as long as you work through it and if you eventually are together long enough till one of you dies then it will still end in tears so if you do have a long lasting relationship pray that you go first

[Apple]

well thats morbid but if that is your view on it turtle then cool
Red just go up to him and say hello, talk to him, get to know him, let him know your boundaries and be confident :p

[Ishikawa Oshro]

When ti comes to relationships I believe it is best for anyone to truly write down some qualities they want in the opposite sex.
As in myself some thign sare

Can cook (im a traditional man though I may cook to)
Has to appeal to me
Will allow me to have a dog (lolz)
Dosent mind if I hang out with my man buddies every once in a while

And those are very basic. You can truly write down a LIST of things you expect to be in your significant other.

And remember. If you like them sexually it wont last. Sex only goes so far. It has to be all or nothing. Mental and physical. You like what they say what they do(yea there will be some things that may irk you about them but you learn to love those things) etc etc.

And as for an age. Well Im not sure. In the old days women and men married young. But that was because they were finacially stable. The parents gave the men their daughter cause they felt the man could provide. So I would say its when you know your man/woman (though personally I think the man needs to be the backbone of the income source espically since if a woman gets prego she wont be able to work during that time and she may not want to return because of the baby). But yea when you can get a foot out there in the real world without relying on your parents. Thats when I'd say your truly ready to be wed and what not!!!!

[redpheonix]

yes thanks you Apple dear and Fat1Fared :)

i appreciates it mucho